In a few days, I leave to travel to Philadelphia for Thanksgiving. My sister and her husband, her kids, and my man and I are set to converge at my moms for hanging and eating.
I used to really dislike holidays… especially Thanksgiving. I would sit around with relatives who I saw once a year and literally had nothing to say to them. I felt so alone and separate… disconnected.
Ultimately, I didn’t feel like I belonged and because of that, I felt on edge and reactionary.
So, how can we make our holiday time with families or friends a space for our growth and enjoyment? Because lets be honest, every day there are opportunities for us to be triggered and feel alone and misunderstood… and everyday we can use these to expand.
I have been having the most epic adventure in Maui. I spent 7 days with a powerful group of 8 plant lovers making flower essences. It felt healing to be back in communion with the plants and to be making medicine that will help to heal all of us on this planet.
In this process of retreating from my day-to-day life, I have been receiving insights and remembrances about who I am and what is most meaningful to me. Some of this has come quite gracefully and easily while other pieces have been more forceful and brought up fears and pain.
The crux of this journey deeper into myself and what I hear from my clients is the deep desire to live in love… to live from an authentic place. Most of us are so caught up in our stories that it is hard to remember what is actually truth. We are not our story, they are within and can be released, with the proper tools.
Too many women are experiencing self-doubt, confusion, loneliness, social anxiety, and guilt.
Too many women look in the mirror and see only their flaws.
Too many women are living in their masculine selves for fear of relaxing into their softness and sensuality.
All of this is creating depletion in women. Energy being expended over and over again just to stay afloat. And burn out, resignation, or hopelessness sinks in.
I am getting right into an important and little talked about subject today. A topic that radically plays into women’s empowerment and sexuality.
Part of my herbal training 15 years ago was doing a research paper on names women call their vaginas. And I remember being overwhelmed, disturbed, and in awe by not only the names but the amount of names.
As a former Birth Doula and Women’s Herbalist, I am also privy to the names women call this same body part.
If you have ever asked your girl friends what they call their “private parts”, you will hear many responses.
“Nothing…maybe down there”
Ummmm… How many names do we have for our ears? Our toes? Our fingers? ONE!!! There are hundreds of names for our feminine body parts.
So, why are there so many names for our ladyparts and what to do about this? (I just need to say that the word vagina is actually referring to the canal that runs from your vulva to your cervix, not your outer parts).
Recently, I released my new website. It started with a seed… a tiny vision of an idea. And then this seed, watered with the right amount of love, intuition, and knowledge, grew and grew. Out of me birthed this beautiful site, supported by incredible women (graphic designer, web developer, photographer).
As women, we have this incredible, elaborate, brilliant reproductive system. The sole purpose is to help us procreate and give us the qualities of the female. It is also the only system of organs in your body that you can live without. Pretty amazing, right? Working with women over the last 15 years, as an herbalist first, then a Doula and Midwife Assistant, and now as a Health & Empowerment Mentor, I see the reproductive system as more than just a system of hormones and functions.
Just the words invoke a feeling of magnificence, of command, and even softness.
Feminine Power is an energy that all women can and must embody.
But, what exactly is it and how will having it affect your life?
For many women, we are figuring out what it means to be feminine. We have grown up in a very masculine society and have learned to strive, achieve, and do. All of these traits are important, in fact, vital for our existence. But, what would happen if we merged our feminine and masculine qualities? What incredible rewards and successes would we reap if we reclaimed our Feminine Power?