In my one-on-one work with women, I am seeing an epidemic of women who are exhausted, irritable, and on the verge of burn out.
And in listening to their stories and their lives, I completely get it. And, they are all part of a vicious cycle. The more exhausted, the more irritable, and then from that space comes burn out.
We judge and shame ourselves for feeling this way. You know how many times I have heard from women, “I mean, my life could be so much worse. I have it pretty good.”
Diminishing your feelings doesn’t do anything. Shame is the enemy of empowerment.
As a consequence, women are half living their lives. Low energy = low presence.
We constantly look at how we could be doing better or daydream about how to make life easier.
And you know the worst part of that?
We end up doing nothing. Stuck. And exhausted. Stuck and Feeling shitty.
From the time we are young girls, we are trained to compromise ourselves to make others happy. And we are petted on the head and told we are “good girls” when we are quiet, nice, and take care of others.
For years I suffered from painful cramps on the first 2 days of my cycle. I would pop Advil and pretend this was “normal.” Everyone else did it, why shouldn’t I?
When I was 16, I went to a gynecologist who prescribed birth control pills and Naproxen (a pain reliever). I never took either one. I shoved them in the back of my underwear drawer and only rediscovered them when I was packing to go to college.
There are numerous reasons why hormonal imbalances and symptoms occur and so it is up to each one of us to be our own feminine researchers (you will be amazed at what you uncover).
One of the simplest techniques to help reduce painful cramps and fibroids and cysts while also promoting health to the reproductive hormones is the topic of this WomanRising TV episode.
It can be done in the comfort of your own home and uses the power of a plant that has been revered for thousands of years.
I don’t know about you but I loved making Valentine’s cards in elementary school. It was always exciting to pull out the colored paper, glitter, scissors, glue and get to work all in the name of love.
Because of the world in which we live, I only have your email address so here is your cyber Valentine.
Before you dive into this love note, I ask that you take a moment and really allow yourself to receive. Although I may not know you personally, I know that you are a gorgeous, amazing, courageous woman who has lots of gifts to share in the world – in your family, your community, with clients, or the world. So, sit back, put one hand on your heart and one hand on your wombspace and allow me to love you up.
If you go on Facebook often or are part of women’s circles or empowerment conversations, ultimately you hear the word Goddess. Goddess is tossed around a lot today and in fact, there is a reclamation happening of this Divine aspect of who you are.
In ancient traditions, Goddesses were revered for specific traits and qualities.
In India, Kali is honored as the Goddess of destruction. With her red tongue hanging out, black wild hair, bloodied sword, skulls dangling as a necklace, holding a severed head, she uses her sword to cut off all that separates us from out true Nature.
In Egyptian mythology, Isis is worshipped as the Goddess of Fertility and Motherhood which basically makes her the Goddess of Creation itself. Isis was also known as a magical and powerful physician with the ability to cure body, mind, and Spirit. Through Isis, women have discovered the Divine Feminine within. And once they discover the Divine Feminine, they realize they can heal others in times of need. They can stand as independent strong women, rather than just “existing” in the patriarchal world.
These Goddesses are meant to remind you of your inner wise woman. We might cling to certain Goddesses to help bring forward more of the qualities they embody. The truth is, these qualities exist in every woman.
Lured by my desire to experience more aspects of the Goddess within, I started taking pole-dancing classes in August. I felt that there was part of my Feminine Essence I couldn’t quite grab ahold of. I would have fleeting moments with Her, but couldn’t sustain for long periods of time. Or, maybe like you, I had merely forgotten about these innate parts or assumed that certain qualities just “weren’t me.”
In dance class, there is certain music that brings alive my “Erotic Creature.” And, for this creature to be coaxed into the world, I also need to feel safe. In my class, there are no mirrors so I can’t fixate on how silly or clumsy or unsexy I might look. The room is almost dark, except for some candles.
And every woman in the class cheers me on.
What I realized, is that when I get out of my head and into my body and the pleasure she derives in that space, my inner Goddess can flourish. She declares herself.
Now, there are times when I am uncomfortable but I trace that feeling in my body rather than suppress it. Sometimes tears come, sometimes anger.
I know it’s close to the end of January (better late than never!!!) but I want to let you know that January is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month. And I thought it was time to shed light on an important feminine organ that is often overlooked and/or neglected.
When I was 22, my first herbal teacher gave the assignment to go home that night and look at my cervix. She gave each of us a speculum and hand held mirror. Kind of strange but at the same time, completely exciting. I mean, I had never seen my cervix. Honestly, I am not sure if I had ever really thought about it except for in high school in Sex Ed class.
That night, I was quite amazed.
The Gateway to your Uterus.
Why is this organ so important to protect and keep healthy?
Click here to watch the latest episode of WomanRising TV to learn how to increase your cervical health… and what you can do if you test for HPV.
As we round the corner to the final days of 2013, I wanted to share some of my own practices to release and call in desires for 2014.
This process is so easy to overlook and is also, incredibly significant. Without releasing what does not serve us and then highlighting and clarifying our desires, we end up fumbling around. We end up stuck. We end up longing for the same things year after year.
In my heart, one of the ways in which I most want to contribute in the world is in supporting women to become turned-on and lit-up. Women who are living their dreams, women who are courageous to share the messy and the beautiful. Women who know that living in mediocrity is not ok anymore. Women who ROCK their feminine health.
The past week I have been craving quiet time to vision for 2014.
Finally on Solstice, I went into the woods and did Part 1 of this process. I wrote down what I want to release now that 2013 is coming to a close.
So, here I am calling myself out and sharing with all of you some of the morsels.
Lack – lack of time, lack of support, lack of a strategic plan for my business
Surfacy friendships – healing any closures around my heart that keep me from greater love and intimacy