This isn’t what my mom taught me about my Moon Cycle

I have learned a lot from my mom. I credit her for my deep knowing that I must go after my dreams. My mom has been self-employed for the last 30 years and I watched her bust her ass to achieve her dreams and reach her successes.

I have learned that generosity is one of the most beautiful qualities we can give to the world.

I have learned how to cook watching her in the kitchen. I am pretty sure that I got my green thumb from her. In the spring and summers, she would start every morning in the garden. She would connect to the plants and Nature before rushing off into the busyness of life.

I have learned the importance of family from her. At times growing up, feeling annoyed and inconvenienced by being with family and now, in such deep gratitude for the ties that have been created.

She has been with me through everything – bad breakups, possible pregnancy, college dramas, road trippin’ across the country, adventuring around the world.

Truthfully, even as I write this, there is so much that I am reflecting on in my life that is accredited to her love and presence.

But, this isn’t what she taught me:

  • To slow down
  • To consciously choose things everyday that fill my vessel (rather than only deplete)
  • To honor my menstrual cycle
  • To connect the dots between how I feel emotionally and what I feel in my body

Last week, I shared about my personal transformation around building my life around my cycles to access more energy, wisdom, and power.

And, I will tell you, having been raised by a mom who taught me to push and push to achieve my dreams, I often have a lot of internal push back about slowing down and following my internal rhythms.

Those few days before I bleed and even those first 2 days of my cycle, when I am laying on the sofa with my hot water bottle and a good book or movie, I can fall into feeling:

  • Self-indulgent
  • Lazy
  • Weak ‘cause I have given in to my body

But, that’s not the case at all. This is simply my conditionings coming up. And I have been in the practice of catching them before I start to believe them as truth.

I feel so good when I am honoring my body’s wisdom and her cycles. And I find freedom when I recognize the deeply imprinted conditionings around hustling and doing.

When I slow down, life becomes waaay more pleasurable.

When I slow down, I feel the potency of connecting to my body.

When I slow down, I use my energy more effectively.

When I slow down, I have the space to contemplate my life.

When I slow down, I access my creativity.

I would love to have you be part of this deep conversation. Join
me on May 1st at my Free virtual Workshop where you will find out
my favorite tips and tools for Embracing Your Cycle and
experiencing less stress, pain, and irritability every month.

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Lets peel back the layers and layers of “stuff” that gets in the
way of life and womanhood.

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I am not always the Moon Goddess you might think I am

It has been quite the journey for me to partner and live with my cycle.  And honestly, I am still working at it.  

The biggest thing that gets in my way is my work.  I love my business… it is an extension of my truths, passions, and commitments.  And it can be difficult at times for me to create strong and healthy boundaries.

For example, last fall I was at a conference in San Diego.  I really wanted to be there to network, hang with colleagues, and be more visible in a safe community.

So, I excitedly drove to the conference and checked in the first day.  And after lunch, I started to feel completely exhausted.  And kind of flu-ish.  My joints were aching.  My low back was hurting.  I was having some mild cramping in my uterus.

And I just ignored what was happening in my body.  I was willing my body to feel better so I drank water and then tea and took some flower essences.

That night, I drove home and by the time I crawled into bed, I knew I wasn’t going to be able to go back to the conference the next morning.

I just didn’t want to fight my body.

Firstly, I had made a commitment to myself about a year prior that I was going to LIVE in alignment with my cycle.  That meant that I was going to honor this wisdom that courses through my body.

A few days before bleeding and the first 2-3 days of my cycle, I was going to rest.  Powerdown.  Go inward.  Give myself permission to rest, read, watch movies, use my hot water bottle.

After all, isn’t this why women used to enter into the Red Tent?

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Don’t Just “Deal With” Your Cycle

I hear a lot of stories from women.  And there are generally some common themes, regardless of our age or background.

The truth is, we are all “figuring” out this Woman thing.  Yes, I am talking about your menstrual cycle but I am also including our connections to other women, our internal criticisms, our body image issues.

And what I will tell you is, you are not alone.  I know sometimes it can feel like that.  I know sometimes it feels like you are holding everything together and with one momentary glance away, life could come crumbling down.

In the busyness of life and all of your responsibilities, you may have forgotten or neglected to take care of you.  You may have forgotten that you carry inside of you some fierce and deep Feminine magic.

Maybe you have been so busy focusing on everyone and everything else, that your most precious resources and gifts have fallen to the wayside.

And honestly, it is not your fault.

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The Power of a Talisman… I mean Taliswoman

If you are anything like me, you have an overriding desire to explore yourself emotionally.

I use tools and practices everyday that will support me to let go of limiting beliefs and past stories.  My mission is to live from this present moment rather than from past hurts or societal/parental conditionings.

I look at each moment as an opportunity for my personal growth.  I desire to live a life where I can be Me.  The most authentic, beautiful, vulnerable, strong, courageous, uncomfortable, messy, brilliant, fierce ME.

And, it’s not always easy.

It’s a practice and a commitment.  To show up for myself over and over, even when I want to check out and pretend none of this exists.

And yet, sometimes, I fall into my default settings.  I get irritable.  I get overwhelmed.  I question my life’s path.

I forget about pleasure.  I forget that I have the power to make choices in every moment.  I forget gratitude.

And I know that you do too.

So, how do you get back on track?

How do you pick yourself up, dust off, and move on?

Now, this is super important because when you stay in fear or overwhelm, get stuck, or create chaos, you create rupture.

And staying in rupture is very easy to do.  You probably have seen women around you participating in this every day.  Women who have been pissed off for 20 years because of a betrayal.  Women who have been contracted in regret for 10 years.  Women who have been drifting off into sadness and despair and now this has become their “normal.”

Now, I am not saying to bypass your emotions.  Not. At. All.

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How to stay in the “flow”

My boyfriend and I went sea kayaking, in hopes of seeing some whales.  Ahhh… the bliss of being in Hawaii 🙂

I love love whales.  Firstly, they are just so gigantic that they take my breath away.  And second, they are gentle wise creatures and remind me of my sensitive nature.

As we paddled and floated out to sea, I was caught by the rhythm of the Ocean.  The up and down of the water was reminding me of the ups and downs of all things Woman.

I was so inspired that I pulled out the waterproof camera to catch my musings and remembrances.

I didn’t take into consideration the sound quality so bear with me 🙂   I almost thought of trashing this video altogether but I wanted to share and remind you of the most powerful rhythms that are coursing through you.

I know many of us feel stressed.  There is always lots on our plates.  When we are stressed, we become contracted.  We forget to relax and “be” in the flow of life.

When we are in flow, we trust life to unfold as we desire, we play and laugh, we engage deeply with others, and we KNOW that all of our needs are met.

Being in the flow is a delicious place to be.  I know when I am there, I am relaxed and present.  I am open and receptive.  I am Feminine.  I have arrived.

So, how do we get in our flow?

Watch the latest episode of WomanRising TV to tune back into your Feminine Rhythms. (Turn the Volume way up!)

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How to Eliminate the Root Cause of your Hormonal Health Issues

maui rainbowI am still reveling in the magic of Maui.

I told someone the other day that Maui is my heart home.  This is the place I feel most ME.

It’s a real treat to feel that in my body.  My cells waking up.  My heart expanding.  My eyes overwhelmed with beauty.

And so I start asking myself inner questions about bringing more of ME out… What do I need?  Who do I want to surround myself with?  What is the quality of life I desire?

All of these questions help me get to deeper layers of my truth…. For example, why do I not always feel as powerful, beautiful, courageous, happy?

If I can dig deep enough, I gain access to profound information.  I can converse with my worries, fears, anxieties.  And at the root, when lovingly tended to, is healing and transformation.

This is the same whether we are talking about our physical or emotional health.

What lies on the surface is not the whole truth.

When you are thinking about setting boundaries in your life and creating more self-care practices or wondering why you are not getting pregnant or have painful cycles, touching into the root is the only place you will find real answers.

Sometimes those answers reveal things we always knew but hadn’t yet acknowledged and sometimes they bring out complete surprises.
In my work with private clients, we work at the root.

We get curious….

  • WHY is there chronic PMS?
  • WHY if there fertility struggles?
  • WHY is there irritability?
  • WHY is there PCOS?
  • WHY is there chronic UTI’s or yeast infections?

I am not nearly as interested in symptomatic relief (although it feels good!) as I am in touching into your body’s innate medicine.  Because there lies healing.

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