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Yesterday was my birthday.  I am 37 years old…. wowza!  I can’t believe another year has come and gone.

I am in Big Sur right now celebratin’!

There is so much that I learn about myself and the world every year.  Lots of small insights and then, of course, times of deep remembrances and truths.  Sometimes life is easy and joyful.  Sometimes it is messy and painful.

I thought about sharing a year in review for you but then I decided to focus on the last month as it has been quite intense and full of massive surrender, growth, and change.

I know many women are going through transitions right now and I thought this might be helpful for you.

Here goes…

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The practice of Naming

If you don’t know, this spiritual powerhouse is running for a seat in Congress.  Alanis Morisette sang and the theater was packed with hundreds of people interested in bettering the world.

Every Monday night, she rents out a theater and gives a talk with time for Q & A.  I have gone to many of these evenings and I am always impressed by her generosity (of her time and expertise) as well as her incredible intelligence (she can rattle off statistics for hours).

Besides being applauded for her work in sharing the teachings of A Course of Miracles, she invites every person to take a political stand.  She believes that as conscious beings, it is essential that we move into the political arena and shine our light into the darkness that is living there.

One of the things she mentioned last night that really resonated with me is that every political movement starts out personally.  Freedom from slavery, women’s rights, Native American justice.   An individual stands up first and then the government follows.  With enough momentum, the individual can create a collective shift.

What happens for many of us is that we feel apathetic.  We feel the devastation happening in our own country and around the world but we feel powerless to actually making changes.  So, we ignore and move on.  We put our feelings into some hidden vault within and we pretend they are not there.  Or we bring them out at dinner parties as conversation pieces but never act on them.

And of course, this conversation can be reflected into our personal, individual lives.

So, I started thinking about my own life.

Where am I being apathetic?

What am I not addressing for fear of what will then change?

Generally, I know when I need to make a big shift in my life.  I have a tendency to ignore these “knowings” for awhile.  I hold on to what is familiar, what is comfortable because it can feel easier.

But avoiding my feelings is actually not easier.  It only prolongs what I know needs to change.  It can be exhausting and truthfully, it’s not in alignment with my commitment to my inner evolution.

There have been times in my life that I knew a relationship wasn’t working or my health was not at its best or my finances had run low.  And rather than “deal” with it and address what was happening and why, I moved forward, put a smile on my face and pretended that all was good.

But on the inside, my doubts and fears and anxieties were bubbling up, waiting for permission to erupt.

So, what to do?  If we are in fact conscious beings, we must shine light and love into all of the prickly, dark, messy parts of us.

For me, a powerful practice is Naming.

Give a name to that which is present.  Naming invites awareness.  Naming invites that my attention is now focused on this very thing I have been avoiding.

Naming might mean saying that you are not being met in your relationship and it is time to part ways.
Naming might mean that you are being a victim rather than empowered.

Naming might mean that you are in fact scared that your bank account is low and you need to get a J-O-B.

Naming gives context to your fear and anxiety.

Naming takes a lot of courage because once you do this, there is no turning back.  No avoiding or ignoring.  You have just given presence to that which is not serving your greatest evolution.

So, tell us in the comments below:

What have you been avoiding for fear of heartache or pain?

What needs your attention?

What shifts are absolutely necessary right now?

Name this and move forward.

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This isn’t what my mom taught me about my Moon Cycle

I have learned a lot from my mom. I credit her for my deep knowing that I must go after my dreams. My mom has been self-employed for the last 30 years and I watched her bust her ass to achieve her dreams and reach her successes.

I have learned that generosity is one of the most beautiful qualities we can give to the world.

I have learned how to cook watching her in the kitchen. I am pretty sure that I got my green thumb from her. In the spring and summers, she would start every morning in the garden. She would connect to the plants and Nature before rushing off into the busyness of life.

I have learned the importance of family from her. At times growing up, feeling annoyed and inconvenienced by being with family and now, in such deep gratitude for the ties that have been created.

She has been with me through everything – bad breakups, possible pregnancy, college dramas, road trippin’ across the country, adventuring around the world.

Truthfully, even as I write this, there is so much that I am reflecting on in my life that is accredited to her love and presence.

But, this isn’t what she taught me:

  • To slow down
  • To consciously choose things everyday that fill my vessel (rather than only deplete)
  • To honor my menstrual cycle
  • To connect the dots between how I feel emotionally and what I feel in my body

Last week, I shared about my personal transformation around building my life around my cycles to access more energy, wisdom, and power.

And, I will tell you, having been raised by a mom who taught me to push and push to achieve my dreams, I often have a lot of internal push back about slowing down and following my internal rhythms.

Those few days before I bleed and even those first 2 days of my cycle, when I am laying on the sofa with my hot water bottle and a good book or movie, I can fall into feeling:

  • Self-indulgent
  • Lazy
  • Weak ‘cause I have given in to my body

But, that’s not the case at all. This is simply my conditionings coming up. And I have been in the practice of catching them before I start to believe them as truth.

I feel so good when I am honoring my body’s wisdom and her cycles. And I find freedom when I recognize the deeply imprinted conditionings around hustling and doing.

When I slow down, life becomes waaay more pleasurable.

When I slow down, I feel the potency of connecting to my body.

When I slow down, I use my energy more effectively.

When I slow down, I have the space to contemplate my life.

When I slow down, I access my creativity.

I would love to have you be part of this deep conversation. Join
me on May 1st at my Free virtual Workshop where you will find out
my favorite tips and tools for Embracing Your Cycle and
experiencing less stress, pain, and irritability every month.

Register here

Lets peel back the layers and layers of “stuff” that gets in the
way of life and womanhood.

And don’t worry if you can’t make the call. When you sign up, you will automatically get sent the recording.

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I am not always the Moon Goddess you might think I am

It has been quite the journey for me to partner and live with my cycle.  And honestly, I am still working at it.  

The biggest thing that gets in my way is my work.  I love my business… it is an extension of my truths, passions, and commitments.  And it can be difficult at times for me to create strong and healthy boundaries.

For example, last fall I was at a conference in San Diego.  I really wanted to be there to network, hang with colleagues, and be more visible in a safe community.

So, I excitedly drove to the conference and checked in the first day.  And after lunch, I started to feel completely exhausted.  And kind of flu-ish.  My joints were aching.  My low back was hurting.  I was having some mild cramping in my uterus.

And I just ignored what was happening in my body.  I was willing my body to feel better so I drank water and then tea and took some flower essences.

That night, I drove home and by the time I crawled into bed, I knew I wasn’t going to be able to go back to the conference the next morning.

I just didn’t want to fight my body.

Firstly, I had made a commitment to myself about a year prior that I was going to LIVE in alignment with my cycle.  That meant that I was going to honor this wisdom that courses through my body.

A few days before bleeding and the first 2-3 days of my cycle, I was going to rest.  Powerdown.  Go inward.  Give myself permission to rest, read, watch movies, use my hot water bottle.

After all, isn’t this why women used to enter into the Red Tent?

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Don’t Just “Deal With” Your Cycle

I hear a lot of stories from women.  And there are generally some common themes, regardless of our age or background.

The truth is, we are all “figuring” out this Woman thing.  Yes, I am talking about your menstrual cycle but I am also including our connections to other women, our internal criticisms, our body image issues.

And what I will tell you is, you are not alone.  I know sometimes it can feel like that.  I know sometimes it feels like you are holding everything together and with one momentary glance away, life could come crumbling down.

In the busyness of life and all of your responsibilities, you may have forgotten or neglected to take care of you.  You may have forgotten that you carry inside of you some fierce and deep Feminine magic.

Maybe you have been so busy focusing on everyone and everything else, that your most precious resources and gifts have fallen to the wayside.

And honestly, it is not your fault.

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The Power of a Talisman… I mean Taliswoman

If you are anything like me, you have an overriding desire to explore yourself emotionally.

I use tools and practices everyday that will support me to let go of limiting beliefs and past stories.  My mission is to live from this present moment rather than from past hurts or societal/parental conditionings.

I look at each moment as an opportunity for my personal growth.  I desire to live a life where I can be Me.  The most authentic, beautiful, vulnerable, strong, courageous, uncomfortable, messy, brilliant, fierce ME.

And, it’s not always easy.

It’s a practice and a commitment.  To show up for myself over and over, even when I want to check out and pretend none of this exists.

And yet, sometimes, I fall into my default settings.  I get irritable.  I get overwhelmed.  I question my life’s path.

I forget about pleasure.  I forget that I have the power to make choices in every moment.  I forget gratitude.

And I know that you do too.

So, how do you get back on track?

How do you pick yourself up, dust off, and move on?

Now, this is super important because when you stay in fear or overwhelm, get stuck, or create chaos, you create rupture.

And staying in rupture is very easy to do.  You probably have seen women around you participating in this every day.  Women who have been pissed off for 20 years because of a betrayal.  Women who have been contracted in regret for 10 years.  Women who have been drifting off into sadness and despair and now this has become their “normal.”

Now, I am not saying to bypass your emotions.  Not. At. All.

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