Protecting your Energy IS Important

A few months ago, I wrote about the need to “protect” oneself and there was such an outpouring of responses that I decided to delve more deeply here.

Here is what I often hear when women are sharing their challenges and struggles:

1.     Many women describe that there are people in their lives (generally significant/close relationships like mother, father, partner, sister, friend) who they have noticed it doesn’t feel “good” to be around.

They say things like, “When I am talking on the phone with my mom for longer than 20 minutes or when I am with her for more than 2-3 days, I get exhausted.  Sometimes I actually get a headache and a stomachache.”

By the way, this is not limited to only moms, but for the sake of this email, I am sticking with this relationship.  It can be anyone  –  father, sister, brother, boss, friend, partner, etc.

2.     Many health practitioners also tell me that after working with their clients, they find themselves unable to fall asleep or their dreams are full of their client’s stories or sometimes, they even feel (emotionally or physically) what their client feels.

Both of the above examples show us that your body is in need of energetic protection.

What is happening is that our bodies are trying to communicate with us constantly.  Our bodies are so incredibly brilliant that they are trying to keep us safe, protected, and out of harms way.  So, if you are exhausted after spending time with your mom for a few days, there is an underlying message.

Most often, the message is that it is time to create healthy and appropriate boundaries and that deep inner inquiry into deep-set past pains (anger, guilt, sadness) is required.

Most of us don’t want to be bothered doing this “work”.  We don’t want to create boundaries out of fear of hurting another.  How many times have you wanted to limit your phone call with your mom only to stay on because you don’t want to “rock the boat” or “deal with the repercussions”?

Or we don’t want to feel into our hurt of a mother who was absent or abusive because it IS incredibly painful.

So rather than place ourselves as a priority and make powerful shifts, we ignore the language of our body.  And things don’t ever change.

We push against our inner wisdom that is desperately trying to get our attention.

So, what do we do?


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When was the last time you thought about one of your desires?

Feeling more vibrant.
More money.
Better Sex.
Deeper Intimacy.
Having a baby.
Traveling abroad.
Expressing more of your wild.
Finding your Soul Mate.

5 minutes ago?  20 minutes ago?  5 seconds ago?

The amount of time we think about our desires and wants is massive. And yet, so often, I hear from women who are stuck and are not actually experiencing what it is they want.

You know why?

Well, my sister, our subconscious mind is quite powerful.  It houses all of our past pains and wounds and traumas.  It keeps us in the familiar, which often means repeating patterns and keeping us stagnant.

Our subconscious doesn’t like change.  It is meant to keep us safe so anytime we start to move away from our “norm”, we experience anxiety, fear, and even skepticism.

So, how do we keep moving forward?

How do we get out of the cycle of being held back from our desires or almost crossing the finish line and being pulled back at the last moment to our “familiar”?

Well, there are many tools that coaches use to create lasting transformation and create powerful results for clients.  And for me, in my practice, that tool has been Flower Essence Therapy.

Flower Essences pull subconscious debris to the conscious mind where it can be released.  This is then where transformation (aka – an amazing partner, heart opening, clarity around purpose, etc) and a-ha’s reside.


The Power of Ritual… And Celebrating your Moontime

The other day I was reminded of the importance of ritual.

I was angsting over the launch of my Flower Essence Practitioner Training Program.   I was sharing with a dear sister that my whole being is pushing me to birth this program into the world (it is already created and is amazing, FYI!).  And at the same time, I don’t feel inspired to do a traditional “launch” which is very labor intensive and honestly, very masculine.   I shared my desire to invite in the most magnificent women who want to both go on their own personal healing/growth journey AND uplevel their businesses by adding Flower Essence Therapy.

She simply said, “Call those women in.”

And so this weekend, I created sacred space and a ritual to do just that.  This grounded my vision and now I am working in partnership with Spirit or the Divine to support me and what I believe is part of my purpose… teaching about the power and profundity of Flower Essences.  Rather than pushing my will forces, I have asked to be supported by the unseen.

Ritual has been my saving Grace over the years.  It can be easy to forget that these simple acts provide an opportunity to feel the sacred and acknowledge our blessings.

For example, one of the things that I do every month during my Moontime is ritual.  Before this weekend, I never thought to share the specifics of this.  I have Mentored women one-on-one for years and taught my Cycles of Wisdom program this spring, and it never crossed my mind to share this profound practice!

So, today on the latest WomanRising TV episode, you will learn how to move from “putting up” with your cycle to perhaps moving towards celebrating this powerful inner rhythm through ritual.


The Villain lives in every Heroine

This past Super Moon I went to the movies.  I thought I would create an elaborate ritual and dance under the Full Moon celebrating my teachers and spirit guides.  But, a dear friend of mine invited me to go see Maleficent and I was intrigued enough to say yes.

One of the last lines in the movie is “There is a hero and villain in us all.”
This is the story.

A woman falls in love.
She is then betrayed.
The heartbreak and pain of this creates deep rupture.
Her anger closes her heart.
She becomes the perpetrator, stuck in hatred and revenge.
She is unrecognizable to herself.
Love begins to break her heart open.
She returns to her true self, saved by true love.

Can you relate to any part of this story?

I know I can.

For years, I was caught not only in the pain of my parent’s divorce but everything that came from that rupture.  I was angry.  I was no longer innocent.  My heart felt shattered.  I questioned long-lasting love.  I pushed down my feelings.  I dimmed my light.  I hurt partners by not committing.  I ignored my truth.

It wasn’t until I could no longer bear living like this that light was able to penetrate into the darkness and my journey of unfoldment began.


What are Flower Essences and Why would you use them?

One of my greatest privileges is to teach and share about Flower Essences as a modality for emotional healing.

Over the last 13 years, they have been the tool that I have turned to the most.  To move through my self-doubts, self-judgements, past pains, and conditionings to discover MY truth.  To find inner Freedom.

For many years, I kept this healing modality on the down-low.  I felt that no one would understand these esoteric remedies or worse, people would ignore the power inherent in plant medicines.  I only shared Flower Essences with my clients and close friends but outside of that, I kept my mouth shut.

I know a lot of women who do the same thing or a version of this. Dampen their light, make themselves small or even invisible, diminish their art for the sake of feeling “safe”.  The suppression of women’s wisdom over the last thousands of years has left subconscious residue that brings up fear when thinking of using our voice or speaking our truth or somehow going against the mainstream grain.

But truthfully, I can’t hold it in any longer.  I can’t continue to hide my truth for fear of being ridiculed. I am privy to medicines that will change your life.

And what I am discovering is that the more I hide, the more I take from you.  Flower Essences can heal your sexual shame and trauma, ease social anxieties, decrease fears, help to open your heart to love your partner more deeply, heal betrayals from past lovers or even your parents.  The list goes on and on so it is crucial for me to share with you so that you can move into your full healing and transformation.


The journey back to our power

Yesterday, I watched a video and was simply blown away.  Tears welled in my eyes and a feeling of compassion for myself and all women coursed through my body.

The video is actually a global campaign put on by the company Always.

Now, I have to say, when I originally saw that it was produced by Always, my inner critic deemed the video was going to be another feminine put down.  You see, in my judgement, Always perpetuates the disconnect between women and their cycles and also women and Nature.

So often because of what is portrayed in the media, we feel that there is something wrong with us when we don’t fit into the “norm.”  Their commercials showcase women dancing around or wearing all white.  Now, I don’t know about you, but I have worked with women for almost 14 years, and I know that most women are not dancing or wearing white in the first few days of their bleeding.  If you prefer to lie in bed or use a hot water bottle or cry or watch a movie the first few days you are bleeding, you are in alignment with your feminine rhythms.

In fact, what I teach in my virtual program Cycles of Wisdom, is much about how to live in alignment with your cycle so that you have access to more of your energy, creativity, sexuality.  Most of us have not been taught this and it is amazing what opens in our lives when we honor our feminine rhythms.

But what this video actually touched on is the derogatory phrase “like a girl.”  How many times in your life have you been told you were playing “like a girl”, throwing “like a girl”, acting “like a girl”?

From the ages of 5 – 10, I had a wall hanging that I tacked to my bedroom door.  It said, “Girls Can Do Anything!”  It had felted letters and in the middle of the words was a felted face of a girl with pigtails.  I loved this art piece that hung on my door for everyone to see.  I was so proud of being a girl and knew, truly,  that I was amazing.

During that time period,  I remember playing catch with my dad and he kept telling me that I was throwing like a girl.  I can vividly recall the slump in my shoulders as I turned and picked up the ball to throw again.  I can recall the burning in my throat and eyes as I held back tears.  I knew it was an insult.  I knew he was telling me I wasn’t throwing well.  I knew that this humiliation was meant to push me to do better.  But, it actually made me feel small and embarrassed.

At some point, the subtle or not so subtle conditionings catch up to us and the girl who believes fully in herself starts to think that she is damaged.

At what point does being “like a girl” go from sassy and powerful to less than and shameful?

Click below to watch the video.  I promise it will leave you inspired and also reflecting on your life.

 I would love to hear your stories.

Were you ever called names “like a girl”?
Do you remember believing so strongly in your good only to then later believe in your faults?

Share #likeagirl and reclaim the beauty and power and wisdom of girls and the girl within.