Yesterday, I watched a video and was simply blown away. Tears welled in my eyes and a feeling of compassion for myself and all women coursed through my body.
The video is actually a global campaign put on by the company Always.
Now, I have to say, when I originally saw that it was produced by Always, my inner critic deemed the video was going to be another feminine put down. You see, in my judgement, Always perpetuates the disconnect between women and their cycles and also women and Nature.
So often because of what is portrayed in the media, we feel that there is something wrong with us when we don’t fit into the “norm.” Their commercials showcase women dancing around or wearing all white. Now, I don’t know about you, but I have worked with women for almost 14 years, and I know that most women are not dancing or wearing white in the first few days of their bleeding. If you prefer to lie in bed or use a hot water bottle or cry or watch a movie the first few days you are bleeding, you are in alignment with your feminine rhythms.
In fact, what I teach in my virtual program Cycles of Wisdom, is much about how to live in alignment with your cycle so that you have access to more of your energy, creativity, sexuality. Most of us have not been taught this and it is amazing what opens in our lives when we honor our feminine rhythms.
But what this video actually touched on is the derogatory phrase “like a girl.” How many times in your life have you been told you were playing “like a girl”, throwing “like a girl”, acting “like a girl”?
From the ages of 5 – 10, I had a wall hanging that I tacked to my bedroom door. It said, “Girls Can Do Anything!” It had felted letters and in the middle of the words was a felted face of a girl with pigtails. I loved this art piece that hung on my door for everyone to see. I was so proud of being a girl and knew, truly, that I was amazing.
During that time period, I remember playing catch with my dad and he kept telling me that I was throwing like a girl. I can vividly recall the slump in my shoulders as I turned and picked up the ball to throw again. I can recall the burning in my throat and eyes as I held back tears. I knew it was an insult. I knew he was telling me I wasn’t throwing well. I knew that this humiliation was meant to push me to do better. But, it actually made me feel small and embarrassed.
At some point, the subtle or not so subtle conditionings catch up to us and the girl who believes fully in herself starts to think that she is damaged.
At what point does being “like a girl” go from sassy and powerful to less than and shameful?
Click below to watch the video. I promise it will leave you inspired and also reflecting on your life.
I would love to hear your stories.
Were you ever called names “like a girl”?
Do you remember believing so strongly in your good only to then later believe in your faults?
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