Searching for Clarity

As we begin the New Year, many of us have ideas of how we desire 2015 to “pan out.”  Maybe you have created a theme for the year or have listed out your desires.

Or maybe, you are finding yourself confused.

Either confused about how to actually manifest your desires…. Y’know, how to bridge the gap between where you are now and what you want to experience.  Or, confused about your desires overall.

There are so many messages blasted at us throughout our lives.  Fall in love, get married, have children, work hard, save money, travel, etc.  Oftentimes, we think we know our desires, but as we walk towards them, we find ourselves quite uncertain.  We begin to questions whose desire this is we are chasing after – maybe it was your Mother or Father’s dream, maybe it was your best friend’s desire.  It doesn’t matter whom it belongs to… the truth is, that it is no longer what your heart is yearning for.

And so we search for clarity.
And search.
And search.
It’s exhausting!

Sometimes, we even torment ourselves trying to get clear on what it is that we most want to experience.

I know I spent most of my 20’s in this space.  I remember many times looking at my life and feeling so sad and frustrated that my outer experiences were not matching my inner longings.  And so I would sit at my altar for long periods of time, speaking my heart.  Or I would have a session with an intuitive or ask friends what they thought I “should” do to create the life I envisioned.

I knew I wanted different.  But different wasn’t quite clear yet.

Here’s the truth, Sister.
You may not like this.
But, this is what I have learned and have continued to see as I work with clients.

Most of us get agitated with our confusion or lack of clarity.  We want forward movement.

But, sometimes our lack of clarity is the absolute perfect experience.  It provides a pause that reminds us that it may not be the best time to make any big decisions.  There is most likely something waking up within or percolating from our inner depths, that we may or may not be aware of.

Rather than push against your confusion to “make” a decision happen, why not relax into it?  This is definitely a more Feminine practice so it can almost feel counter-intuitive.  It can feel in opposition to your desires.

Yet, when you push, you actually aren’t doing anything except torturing yourself.
Pushing to get the answer.  Pushing to get clear.  All in the hopes that this anguish inside disappears for awhile.

And yes, I understand you want things to change, but what is the energy that you choose to make this happen?

This is such a powerful time to ALLOW.
To ask for that which wants to come forward to arrive.
To create space for inner inquiry.
To practice patience and surrender.
To be in the practice of clarity.

Your indecision is the decision.
There is nothing to act on YET.

Take this time to dream because sister, once you are clear, you are going to take the Masculine nature within and move forward.  And you may not have as much time for space and quiet.


1. Write down your desires.
If you are unclear, write down some possibilities.musings for your life.

2. List out what steps might make these desires manifest.

3. Every night before bed (for at least 3 weeks), write a list of 10 things you ARE clear about.
“I am clear I love my dog.
I am clear I love to organic apples and almond butter.
I am clear I want to serve others through my writing or nutrition.”
This gets you in the energy of clarity.

4. When writing this list, for an extra boost, take 1 drop of Scleranthus and Cerato Flower Essence which enhances clarity of choice.

5. Wait patiently for clarity arrives.
No pushing or shoving allowed.
ALLOW Clarity space to birth herself.

To all of us moving forward…. sourced from our Feminine Essence.With Love....
And Remembering the Ways of the Feminine™,
Joanne Ameya

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Searching for Clarity — 3 Comments

  1. Thank you for such a well-written and clearly posed message. I have come to a conclusion, not based in any particular research, that clarity of goals is fleeting. At times it’s readily accessible, and when it’s time to grow and evolve it is elusive – again. Thank you for writing about this subject, as it is very timely.