A few months ago, I wrote about the need to “protect” oneself and there was such an outpouring of responses that I decided to delve more deeply here.
Here is what I often hear when women are sharing their challenges and struggles:
1. Many women describe that there are people in their lives (generally significant/close relationships like mother, father, partner, sister, friend) who they have noticed it doesn’t feel “good” to be around.
They say things like, “When I am talking on the phone with my mom for longer than 20 minutes or when I am with her for more than 2-3 days, I get exhausted. Sometimes I actually get a headache and a stomachache.”
By the way, this is not limited to only moms, but for the sake of this email, I am sticking with this relationship. It can be anyone – father, sister, brother, boss, friend, partner, etc.
2. Many health practitioners also tell me that after working with their clients, they find themselves unable to fall asleep or their dreams are full of their client’s stories or sometimes, they even feel (emotionally or physically) what their client feels.
Both of the above examples show us that your body is in need of energetic protection.
What is happening is that our bodies are trying to communicate with us constantly. Our bodies are so incredibly brilliant that they are trying to keep us safe, protected, and out of harms way. So, if you are exhausted after spending time with your mom for a few days, there is an underlying message.
Most often, the message is that it is time to create healthy and appropriate boundaries and that deep inner inquiry into deep-set past pains (anger, guilt, sadness) is required.
Most of us don’t want to be bothered doing this “work”. We don’t want to create boundaries out of fear of hurting another. How many times have you wanted to limit your phone call with your mom only to stay on because you don’t want to “rock the boat” or “deal with the repercussions”?
Or we don’t want to feel into our hurt of a mother who was absent or abusive because it IS incredibly painful.
So rather than place ourselves as a priority and make powerful shifts, we ignore the language of our body. And things don’t ever change.
We push against our inner wisdom that is desperately trying to get our attention.
So, what do we do?
How do we create change so that we prioritize our own health and foster healthier relationships?
Enter Flower Essences. I told you that they can address most issues!
One of my favorite Flower Essences is Yarrow. Yarrow flower helps to maintain your own energetic field. It basically says, “This is my energy and this is yours (your mom or clients). Please take yours back.”
So often our energies merge with others. And this isn’t always negative. It is when it inhibits how we feel or think that we know some attention is needed.
Rather than feeling exhausted or depleted after an interaction with your mother, you can take Yarrow flower essence which will protect your energetic field so that you don’t take on her projections or issues or judgements.
Another Flower Essence I love is Rue. Rue helps to pull out “energetic” hooks in your aura. So, you know those times when your mom says something that “hooks” into your fears and insecurities? And you are left feeling that somehow you have been stomped on? Rue helps to unhook other people’s thoughts and emotions and smoothes you out energetically.
Again, this applies to every relationship and can be such a life-saver in a world where we it’s been taught to take someone down a notch.
Wouldn’t both of these tools in your apothecary be amazing?!?
- The more you protect your energy, the clearer you are.
- The more you protect your energy, the healthier your relationships become (on your terms).
- The more you protect your energy, the more safety and boundaries you can create for yourself.
- The more you protect your energy, the more fun you experience
I have been receiving lots of inquiries about this Certification Program as women are excited to learn powerful tools that support either themselves or their clients and create deep and long-lasting transformation.
Of course, everyone wants to know the investment. Please know that I am more focused on whether this program is a good fit for you and your life than how the payments look. I have been working with each woman as they sign up to make sure that if her body is a full YES, we can figure out payment details.
Some women are breaking the payments up over 10 months. And some women are paying a larger chunk and then breaking the payments up over 4 months. There are many different options.
So, if you are a yes or close to it, we can schedule a time to talk. Because this program in limited to 12 women and there is a tremendous amount of one-on-one support, it is very important that I speak with each woman before they register and enroll to make sure that this is the right fit.
And remember, listen to how you feel in your relationships. This is your body communicating with you something very important.
Remember that to protect yourself is an act of self-love.
In the comments below, I would love to hear from you.
Does this idea of protecting yourself resonate for you?
Do you often have physical symptoms when with others who you have a painful or complicated past?
Are you excited to buy and try these flower essences?With Love....
And Remembering the Ways of the Feminine™,