Our first relationship in this world is with our Mothers.
And this relationship is quite windy and sometimes perilous. It can be challenging to know that we may not ever get the love we truly desire. It can be heartbreaking to be squashed, unseen, betrayed, and/or violated.
If you can traverse the messy entanglements and pains, the love on the other side is exquisite.
This path asks you to stand tall in self-responsibility and forgiveness. This path asks you to lean into your adult self so that you can heal the child wounds.
I am not saying that this will be an easy path to navigate. But, I do know that healing the mother-daughter bond is possible.
Everything is repairable.
From the time we are born, we so deeply yearn to love and be loved by our Mothers.
And at some point, we separate and even reject our Mothers.
For so much of my life, my mom and I couldn’t connect. From age 2 until age 27, there was some deep divide.
I wanted to cuddle in her arms and feel close but….
I felt squashed and suppressed.
I felt angry and unforgiving.
I always looked at other women’s relationships with their mothers and compared mine, wishing that I could open to her and love her, but the closures around my heart just couldn’t melt.
I didn’t like living like this. I wanted to heal…. and I have done ALOT of healing solo and with my mom.
I have gone to the depths of my Soul, only to break free of these deep pains.
And you can too, if you are willing.
We all have stories about our Mothers.
And, there are always reasons why we feel the way we do.
Years ago, I never would have thought I would truly enjoy and appreciate my mom. But through my commitment to my emotional healing, I have come to know her beauty and generosity.
Last week, my mom came for a visit. And we sat down for an impromptu chat. I almost didn’t send this to you as we had about 20 minutes to shoot it and there was lots that I wanted to talk about that didn’t quite make it in our limited time.
(I am pushing past my perfectionism tendencies because there are some beautiful take-aways from this conversation.)
Watch the latest WomanRising TV episode where my mom and I share the differences between the adult/mother perspective and the child perspective. And the journey to healing.
We would love to hear from you.
I know that this conversation can really touch into deep wounds.
But, I will tell you, that it takes a village to create transformation.
You are never alone.
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- Was this helpful to you?
- Do you have questions for either one of us?
- Do you have desires for your relationship with your mother? Share what it is that you want to experience.
- How might healing your relationship with your mom change how you parent your children?